Animals bring so much joy to our lives. They bring laughter and companionship and are considered a part of the family. After losing a pet, it’s completely normal to feel immense sadness, loneliness, depression or even shock.
Some people may also feel anger, guilt, or even denial when they are trying to come to terms with their loss. It’s important that you allow yourself time to grieve and process these feelings in your own time.
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What is Anticipatory Grief?
When your pet is first diagnosed with a terminal illness, or you realise that your pet is nearing the end of their life, it can be an incredibly challenging time. Not only will your pet need more intensive care and frequent veterinary visits, but you’ll also be trying to emotionally prepare yourself for what is to come.
It can be a crippling time, full of heightened concern, confusion, fear, anger, helplessness and hopelessness. This is anticipatory grief
~The Last Battle ~
“If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done,
For this — the last battle — can’t be won.
You will be sad I understand,
But don’t let grief then stay your hand,
For on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship must stand the test.
We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn’t want me to suffer so,
When the time comes, please, let me go.
Take me to where to my needs they’ll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don’t grieve that it must be you
Who has to decide this thing to do;
We’ve been so close — we two — these years,
Don’t let your heart hold any tears.”
— Unknown